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STEP THE F*CK UP
Gifts to Help Someone Stop Making Excuses
Part of the series Best Book Gifts for Men Who Say They Do Not Need Anything
The person with a reason for everything does not need to hear that they make excuses; they have heard it, and it became another excuse. What works is a book that takes the excuses one at a time, in private, in daylight, with a mission attached. The Day 6 page is the model: too late is an excuse with a calendar, because they are going to turn that age anyway, the years pass whether they build or not, and the only question is what they will have built when they get there. A month of pages like that, written in their own hand, does what no conversation has.
Why it has to be in their handwriting
An excuse survives as a feeling and dies as a sentence on a page with a date next to it. That is the mechanism of the book's first month: the screen-time number written in the box, the person who started later than them named, the can't rewritten as won't and read aloud. Nobody can argue with their own handwriting, and nobody else has to be in the room, which is why a gift can do what a friend cannot. Month One, Excuses is the month; why people make excuses is what the reflex protects.
Which book for which excuse-maker
Step The F*ck Up for the adult whose excuses cover everything. Stack The F*ck Up for the one whose excuses are about money, because the book calls broke a costume rather than a condition. MAXX The F*ck Up for the teenager, whose excuses are about sleep and the phone and who will only accept them from a book that speaks his language. Dad The F*ck Up for the father whose excuse is work, since the first month is titled Show Up.
How to give it
Do not mention excuses. Inscribe the inside cover with one line about the thing they want, not the thing they do, and hand it over on an ordinary day, because a birthday or a New Year makes the book a resolution and resolutions are the excuse-maker's home turf. Day 1 is whenever they open it. If they say they do not have time, that is Day 2, and the book handles it.
More on the shelf
Best book gifts for men is the overview; for someone afraid to start is the neighbor, since fear is behind every excuse; the most common excuses is what the recipient will recognize by Day 10; how to stop making excuses is the method they are about to run.
Step The F*ck Up
365 days of no-bullsh*t motivation. One page, one mission, two minutes. Miss never twice.
What is a good gift for someone who always makes excuses?
A book that buries one excuse a day for a month, in their own handwriting, in private. An excuse survives as a feeling and dies as a dated sentence on a page, and nobody can argue with their own writing.
How do you help someone who makes excuses without lecturing?
Do not mention excuses. Inscribe the book with one line about what they want, give it on an ordinary day rather than a birthday, and let the pages do the confrontation alone.
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written by the author, at the kitchen table, after work.