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The Six Kinds of Life Events Worth Writing Down

By Joshua S. Brogley · September 5, 2026

Milestones is the wrong word for the events a life is made of, because it only counts the celebrated ones. A working taxonomy needs six categories: Beginnings, Bindings, Endings, Movements, Turnings, and Healings. Sort a real life into those six and two things happen. Events you never thought to record turn out to have shaped everything. And the ones that hurt stop being filed under miscellaneous, which is quietly where most people keep them.

The six, defined

Beginnings: what started, the child, the venture, the practice, the friendship. Bindings: what joined you to others, the vows, the partnerships, the promises that reorganized your obligations. Endings: what stopped, and who, the losses, the last days, the doors that closed. Movements: what changed location or form, the emigration, the career jump, the house. Turnings: the decisions and moments after which the map was different, often invisible at the time. Healings: what mended, written last, sometimes years last, and the category people are most surprised to find they needed.

Why the sad categories earn their place

A record built only from milestones, weddings, births, promotions, is a highlight reel, and highlight reels are useless to the person who inherits them, because the inheritor's actual question is how you got through the other kind. Endings and Healings belong in the record for the same reason load-bearing walls belong in blueprints. Notice also what the taxonomy does to grief: filing a loss as an Ending, in a category with its own dignity and its own template, is materially different from having nowhere to put it. Writing about losing someone is that category's hardest and most valuable entry.

Turnings are the category people miss entirely

Everyone records the wedding; almost nobody records the conversation that made them quit the safe job, the diagnosis that reordered the priorities, the decision that changed the decade. Turnings hide because they rarely look like events while happening, no ceremony, no photos, and they are the entries future readers value most, because turnings are where the why of a life lives. Recognizing one while you are inside it is its own skill, and half of it is just having the category.

A taxonomy needs templates, or it stays a listicle

Categories only become a practice when each event has somewhere to go: a template asking what happened, what it changed, what you know now, dated, returnable. Thirty such templates, five per category, sit at the center of a certain hardcover, between the scored decades and the letters forward, so a whole life files into the same book the next generation inherits. If you only ever complete one category, make it the one your family cannot reconstruct without you, which is almost always the history that predates them.

Lifetime Blueprint

The hardcover built to be inherited: eight life domains scored across decades, thirty life-event templates, and letters written forward, ending in a Final Letter.

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What life events should you write down?

Six kinds: Beginnings, Bindings, Endings, Movements, Turnings, Healings. The celebrated events are the easy third; the endings, turnings and healings are the entries a future reader actually needs.

What are turnings in a life story?

The decisions and moments after which the map was different: the quit, the diagnosis, the conversation that changed the direction. They rarely look like events while happening, which is why they go unrecorded and why they matter most.

written by the author, at the kitchen table, after work.